Two different stories have emerged in connection to Pastor John Gray’s cheating scandal. He said on daytime talk show, “The Real,” that his affair was only “emotional” and not sexual, but a woman who identifies herself as his former mistress says the two had a consensual sexual relationship.

Adrienne Houghton, who wed Israel Houghton—the worship leader that divorced his wife of 20 years because of his own infidelity—calls men who cheat on their wives “cowardly.”

As the Christian community is left reeling from news that Pastor John Gray publicly promoted fidelity while privately cheating on his wife, a Christian relationship expert is being vocal about the need for faithfulness among men.