Sir, you’re wrong: Husband of Alzheimer’s-afflicted B. Smith slams Church for condemning his adulterous affair
Article By Rebecca Johnson // Faith & Family // EEW Magazine
Dan Gasby has a wife and a girlfriend, and he’s steaming mad at the Church (and others outside the church) for condemning it.
His 69-year-old spouse, former model and restaurateur, B. Smith, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2013. Gasby, who is her primary caretaker, feels justified in having another woman taking care of him on the side.
The couple has been married 26 years.
Any person of faith that has condemned him, according to Gasby, is a “religious Neanderthal,” that acts “as if Jesus was a ball, and God is a bat, swinging wildly, and judging harshly.”
The criticism the 64-year-old cheating husband is railing against, first started in December 2018 when he publicly introduced his new sweetheart, Alex Lerner, 53, on Facebook. The blond-haired mistress, who sometimes helps care for B. Smith, caused a major dustup. Things got even worse after Gasby was featured in a new Washington Post video showing off their strange living arrangement.
“If This is Us and Modern Family came together, it would be us,” Gasby told The Post.
The problem for Christians is that the Bible does not adapt its principles to suit modern times. Adultery has always been wrong—even when a husband or wife is sick. A spouse’s weakened condition can never be used as justification for infidelity.
But according to Gasby, it can, which is why he is angry over being rightfully blasted online.
In December 2018, Dan Gasby first publicized his new relationship by posting this image online (Credit: Facebook)
Gasby, who wed B. Smith in 1992, is accused of abusing, disrespecting, and taking advantage of his wife and her riches. Not everyone believes that. However, anyone within the faith community that does, Gasby’s response is, “I say to you B. Smith’s worst day is 10x better than you’ve experienced.”
As he continued to defend his actions on Facebook, Gasby blamed the media and others, saying the public had “ginned up controversy by covertly spewing racist innuendo.”
He continued, “to the bloggers who wallow in the mud and filth of lies, to the idiots and ignorant people calling for my arrest and saying B is or has ever been abused, I only wish someone in your immediate family has Alzheimer’s so you can see feel and experience the pain of millions of people across this country, so you can know firsthand what it’s like to care 24/7/365 for someone who can no longer care for themselves!
Dan Gasby and B. Smith attend BET Honors 2013 , the year of her diagnosis (Credit: Bennett Raglin/Getty )
In Gasby’s commentary, he made this point: “I love my wife but I can’t let her take away my life!”
A respondent named Alyssia Powell said, “This is really selfish. There are plenty of women who have taken care of their husbands as they have become paralyzed, had a stroke, had Alzheimer’s, and never was it cool for them to take a man and move him into their home so they could be happy with [him] the rest of their lives.”
Gasby, who refuses to listen to the overwhelming outcry against his actions, said, “5-10 years from now when many of you who will have an almost predestined meeting with Alzheimer’s because of genetics, obesity, and a myriad of inflammatory diseases, you’ll be wishing for someone to share moments with and ease the pain of loneliness and despair.”
He added, “The clock is ticking. I know I can and have managed this, but can you do it too?”
An estimated 5.7 million people live with Alzheimer’s in the United States, including 1 in 10 over 65, according to the Alzheimer’s Association.