Forgiveness frees your soul, heals your heart, and opens you up to receive more of God’s grace. If you’re struggling with forgiveness, EEW Magazine Online shows you how—and why—to embrace it.

By Dearra Dawkins // EEW Magazine Online

They say good fences make good neighbors, but when those fences become walls between you and others, it’s time to grab a hammer. Forgiveness is the tool God gives us to break down barriers, repair relationships, and rebuild unity. But how often do we let pride or pain keep us from mending what’s broken?

Consistently, countless Christian women walk around carrying invisible burdens—not handbags or devotionals, but the heavy load of unresolved conflicts, unspoken bitterness, and wounded relationships. While the world encourages us to “cut off toxic people” and “protect our peace,” Scripture calls us to a different path—one of reconciliation, forgiveness, and healing.

How can we, as women of faith, honor God’s call to unity in a culture that glorifies division?

The High Stakes of Division

Conflict is inevitable in human relationships. But when hurt festers, it fractures not only our relationships with others but also our connection with God. In church communities, disagreements—whether personal or political—can sow seeds of disunity, undermining our witness to a world desperate for love and harmony.

Jesus knew the pain of rejection, betrayal, and misunderstanding. Yet, He consistently modeled forgiveness and urged His followers to prioritize reconciliation. As women called to reflect Christ, we must consider: How can we break free from the hidden cost of unforgiveness and build bridges of grace instead?

Biblical Insights for Reconciliation and Healing

Reconciliation Before Worship (Matthew 5:23-24)

"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."

Jesus places reconciliation at the forefront of our worship, teaching that unresolved conflict with others hinders our connection with God. In this passage, He challenges us to prioritize repairing relationships—even above religious rituals. Our worship becomes most authentic when it flows from hearts free of bitterness.

Forgiveness as a Reflection of Mercy (Matthew 6:14-15)

"For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

These sobering words from Jesus remind us of the reciprocal nature of forgiveness. When we forgive, we mirror the mercy God has extended to us. Forgiveness is not about excusing sin but about releasing the power it holds over us, allowing God’s grace to heal and restore.

The Power of Gentle Responses (Proverbs 15:1)

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Harshness escalates tension, but gentleness disarms hostility. Whether in person or on social media, responding with grace can open doors for healing and understanding. A soft answer is not weakness—it is strength under control, reflecting the character of Christ.

Living Peaceably With All (Romans 12:18)

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone."

Paul’s words acknowledge that reconciliation may not always be achievable, but they emphasize our responsibility to pursue peace. Taking the first step, even when it feels undeserved, aligns us with God’s heart for unity and demonstrates our obedience to His will.

Unity in Christ Above All (Ephesians 4:2-3)

"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."

Unity requires effort. Paul urges us to cultivate humility, patience, and love, reflecting the Spirit’s work within us. By prioritizing our shared identity in Christ, we build bridges that withstand the storms of conflict.

Practical Steps to Break Free from Unforgiveness

Pause and Reflect
Before reacting, take time to pray and process your emotions. Invite God into the situation for clarity and peace.

Pray for the Person Who Hurt You
Ask God to soften your heart and to bless the person you’re struggling to forgive. This act shifts your focus from pain to grace.

Initiate Reconciliation
Be courageous in seeking peace, even if you feel wronged. Taking the first step is a powerful demonstration of obedience.

Speak with Grace
Choose words that build up rather than tear down, and approach conversations with a heart for healing, not proving a point.

Remember God’s Mercy
Keep God’s forgiveness at the forefront of your mind, letting it inspire you to forgive others freely.

Forgiveness Brings Freedom

Forgiveness is not about ignoring offenses or pretending pain doesn’t exist. It’s about releasing the chains that bind us, making room for God’s healing power to work in our lives. When we choose forgiveness, we reflect God’s heart, mend what is broken, and build stronger bridges of unity.

Sisters in Christ, let’s break free from the weight of unforgiveness. As we lay down our burdens at the foot of the cross, may we find the courage to reconcile, the grace to forgive, and the joy of walking in God’s perfect peace.